So it’s a Saturday night. Weekend feels. I check my Snapchat and I see people putting up stories of ‘Party Party Party’. Raving, going crazy. Sigh, how I wish I enjoyed stuff like that. Hahahaha. Not.
My post today is to put across a simple message today- do what YOU love. I’m 19 years old, and I’m already tired of seeing everyone around me succumb to peer pressure. It doesn’t mean that I haven’t gone through it, too. I also don’t mean that partying is a bad thing. I’m not one of those people who judges others based on their activities or habits. I’m someone who would want to understand a person’s actions and then conclude on their character. It probably has a lot to do with the fact that I was really judged when I was in school.
The reason why I started talking about parties is because I really can’t face peer pressure anymore. The fact that I have a million people around me who party and drink and do drugs doesn’t scare me anymore. I’m so free to do what I want. And don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against these people. And I never will. It’s a choice, and it should be left as one. I don’t understand the idea of pulling someone to do the same things as you. Isn’t that why we call ourselves independent?
Even if you are a victim of peer pressure, I don’t believe it is only the other party who is to blame. It’s equally both their faults. Why I say so is that if you are willing to fight against it, you can. No one should have enough power over you to change your belief system. Whether you do something or not must surely remain under your control. It’s so heartbreaking to see kids of my age group doing things they’ve probably been forced into.
No one knows you better than yourself. Why should someone else be allowed to make decisions for you And I’m not only referring to the kids here, this includes parents as well. Your decisions must be in your hands, and no one else should have the authority to distinguish what’s right from wrong for you. And if you’re not able to tell the difference, you’re accountable for it. At least you won’t blame someone else for what’s happening and what are the consequences of your actions.
Why I’ve spoken about this today is, because I was a victim of peer pressure myself. I haven’t gone through any drastic discomfort neither have I done something to destroy my life, but I have made wrong decisions. And I don’t blame anyone else but myself for it. And it’s really important for someone who has experienced to be able to talk about it. I started drinking when I was 18. And that summer, I drank every chance I got. I went out as many times as possible just to drink. And whether I like to admit it or not, I started depending on it at a very early stage. Within a few weeks, I wanted to go out every weekend just to get drunk and ‘have fun’. Within 4 months, I left it because I got sick of it. I just felt that this is not who I want to be. And I chose to stop. No one forced me to do it, and that was my choice. And that might be the only reason why I don’t regret drinking. Had it been under someone else’s influence, my answer might not have been the same.
I’ve faced peer pressure in school. Especially becauseI wanted to ‘fit in’. We were a group of 8 girls, and we were called the ‘snobbish gang’. We always ignored other people, we were cold towards the other girls and we always showed ourselves to be the best. Now that I think about it, I laugh at what a fool I was. Because I was nothing like those girls and I ended up staying close to just 2 of them, who are now my best friends. This is my example of peer pressure. I changed my behaviour just to be accepted. And I don’t respect myself for that decision.
I know many of you can relate to these situations, and everyone has their different degrees of peer pressure. It might be really life changing or just a small incident in your life. But this does not change the fact that you let someone else take that decision for you. Stay strong and stand up to those who bully you or pressurize you. Learn to fight back. And remember, every choice you make must be your choice, don’t let anyone else live your life for you! 🙂